20+ Never Have I Ever Questions for Couples (To Spice Up Date Night)

You’ve heard the stories about their childhood. You know their coffee order. You know which cousin they hate. But do you really know everything?

Date nights can easily fall into a routine. You go to dinner, you talk about work, you watch Netflix, you go to sleep. It’s comfortable, but it’s not exactly thrilling.

If you want to shake things up, you need to gamify your conversation. Never Have I Ever isn't just a drinking game for college parties; it is surprisingly powerful for couples. It uncovers secrets, sparks funny stories, and—if you play it right—can get a little spicy.

Here are the best questions to ask your partner, ranked from "Sweet" to "Sweating."

Level 1: The "Innocent" Icebreakers

Start here to warm up. These are funny, low-stakes, and guaranteed to start a debate.

1. "Never have I ever snooped on an ex’s social media in the last month." (We all do it. Admit it.)
2. "Never have I ever lied about liking a gift you gave me." (Prepare for trust issues.)
3. "Never have I ever dropped food on the floor and still eaten it."
4. "Never have I ever used your toothbrush without telling you."
5. "Never have I ever stayed in a relationship just because I didn't want to be alone."

Level 2: The Relationship Tests

Okay, now we get into the real stuff. These questions reveal how you operate in love and dating.

6. "Never have I ever checked your phone while you were in the shower."
7. "Never have I ever flirted with someone else to make you jealous."
8. "Never have I ever thought about breaking up with you during a fight."
9. "Never have I ever lied to get out of hanging out with your family."
10. "Never have I ever kept a secret from you just to avoid an argument."

Level 3: After Dark (Spicy)

Disclaimer: Make sure the kids are asleep.

11. "Never have I ever had a dream about one of your friends."
12. "Never have I ever been attracted to someone purely because they were 'off-limits'."
13. "Never have I ever sent a risky text to the wrong person."
14. "Never have I ever faked it." (The ultimate danger question. Ask at your own risk!)
15. "Never have I ever wanted to try something new in the bedroom but was too shy to ask."

How to Play as a Couple (The Rules)

Since there are only two of you, the traditional "drinking" rule gets boring fast. Try these variations instead:

• The Strip Variation: Put down a finger (or take a sip) if you have done it. First person to lose 5 fingers has to remove an article of clothing.
• The Truth Penalty: If you put a finger down, you have to tell the full story behind it. No skipping details.
• The Kiss Tax: Every time you admit to something, you have to kiss your partner. (Cheesy? Yes. Effective? Also yes.)

Run Out of Questions?

The hardest part of this game is thinking of new questions without awkward pauses.

We added a specific "Couples Mode" to our Party Game generator. It mixes deep questions, funny scenarios, and romantic prompts so you don't have to do the thinking. Just hit "Next Card" and let the conversation flow.

Don't let date night be boring. Pour a glass of wine, open our Couples Game Generator, and find out what secrets your partner is still hiding.